We do not pick where or when we are born. We have as much control over our own mental development as a infant does in which hair color it has.
Personal choice is a slave to wisdom, affluence, might, and brilliance. Logic is the tool you must learn to begin to see the difference between:
Truths and Falsehoods;
Altruism and Narcissism;
Strength and Force;
Salvation and Manipulation...