Epicmafia

over 8 years

the thing is that she has plenty of time to think about this......... while still not making a "break" happen. you can think about this when you wake up and make breakfast, before you to go to bed, all while not bringing it to the surface and then silently making a choice about what you want without emotionally terrorizing someone before the fact. i can even understand if she discussed it with you, but why do you need a "break" its so stupid

deletedover 8 years

you can literally get banned for the words u type to someone else on here, this is a safe haven website.

Rutab

over 8 years

Arcbell says

Don't lose your ability to put someone at the foundation of your life. One day it'll serve you well even if this relationship doesn't work out.

I stand by my thought that I did absolutely nothing wrong in this recent endeavor. She said she has "been thinking" and that's about it.

She even dropped the "You're perfect in every way, but I don't know if you're perfect FOR me."

That's what reallllly killed me inside

poser

over 8 years

i miss when epicmafia was more like 4chan

deletedover 8 years

What are you guys comparing it to... 4chan?! This is far from the most supportive and friendly site out there and definitely not a haven. LMAO.

Arcbell

over 8 years

Don't lose your ability to put someone at the foundation of your life. One day it'll serve you well even if this relationship doesn't work out.

poser

over 8 years

tumblr is the internet safe haven, plenty of people from there come to here (usually come out unhappy) but that has nothing to do w/ how things are here. plenty of people are quite rude and go against what people find to be acceptable on purpose . . .

deletedover 8 years

Arcbell says

Lono says

I'm just saying that the type of comforting the people on this site gives (mostly the females, but a surprising amount of males are this way too), is just like.. internet cushiony overly acceptive, come-into-my-arms-i'll-make-it-better type of stuff that if you get too used to it, you'll be expecting this type of treatment all the time when you decide to leave this internet safe haven behind, and it'll be bad.

I wouldn't consider epicmafia an internet safe haven l-m-a-o

it really is though

Rutab

over 8 years

poser says

no, she is a part of your life. you're also a student, a son, a family member and friend to many other people. are they not a part of your life?

Yes, I know, but to me, she was the most important foundation

deletedover 8 years

DahliaHawthorne says

I've heard epicmafia described as many things, but "internet safe haven" is new to me lol.

Really? I've seen it described this way plenty of times lol, and it's true.

Arcbell

over 8 years

Lono says

I'm just saying that the type of comforting the people on this site gives (mostly the females, but a surprising amount of males are this way too), is just like.. internet cushiony overly acceptive, come-into-my-arms-i'll-make-it-better type of stuff that if you get too used to it, you'll be expecting this type of treatment all the time when you decide to leave this internet safe haven behind, and it'll be bad.

I wouldn't consider epicmafia an internet safe haven l-m-a-o

deletedover 8 years

I've heard epicmafia described as many things, but "internet safe haven" is new to me lol.

Rutab

over 8 years

Justrec, I know you have good intentions, but with all due respect, this site does not revolve around my life

edit: my life does not revolve around EM

poser

over 8 years

no, she is a part of your life. you're also a student, a son, a family member and friend to many other people. are they not a part of your life?

deletedover 8 years

I'm just saying that the type of comforting the people on this site gives (mostly the females, but a surprising amount of males are this way too), is just like.. internet cushiony overly acceptive, come-into-my-arms-i'll-make-it-better type of stuff that if you get too used to it, you'll be expecting this type of treatment all the time when you decide to leave this internet safe haven behind, and it'll be bad.

Rutab

over 8 years

She's become my life because we've been together for so long

poser

over 8 years

imo you should never enter a relationship allowing someone to become your entire life. especially if you're depressed, because then they become ur entire source of happiness and when they leave you get even more depressed than before. you should always know you don't NEED anyone, you only need yourself to be happy. a girl is a part of your life, she can become a bigger part of your life if you both want that but if she goes you should also know your world isn't over

deletedover 8 years

That's how I'm reading it though lol

deletedover 8 years

I hope you're not replying to me because I said nothing of the sort.

Rutab

over 8 years

DahliaHawthorne says

@Lono so basically "you're a man, you're not allowed to have feelings or emotions just suck it up and move on"??

Unashamed that I genuinely sobbed today

deletedover 8 years

@Lono so basically "you're a man, you shouldn't express your feelings or emotions just suck it up and move on"??

deletedover 8 years

Rutab says

I am a very emotionally weak person

so are most people

poser

over 8 years

i was once a weak person too but after so many guys wasted my time i basically pretend they die when they leave my life, how sweet is that

deletedover 8 years

Lono says

I wouldn't think about it too much and stay away from discussing it with people on this site. People here are overly comforting and reassuring in the style of like a cheesy disney film or something.
Stay away from that.

???

deletedover 8 years

I wouldn't think about it too much and stay away from discussing it with people on this site. People here are overly comforting and reassuring in the style of like a cheesy disney film or something.
Stay away from that.

AMA :)